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It is about the Journey, not the Destination

There is a time and a place for everything in Life. When you really think about it, there is no real joy in rushing from milestone to milestone so fast, achieving all our heart’s desires quickly and immediately. Soon we may run out of meaningful experiences. We have to live Life at the pace that is right for us. When we are raring to go forward all the time we miss the scenery; we miss all the little things that also matter along the way, the experiences that will shape us into who we should be.

I am often impatient for things to move along and to achieve certain goals. I can’t wait for “life to begin”. And then sometimes, it hits me with the force of a cosmic speeding train. This is Life and I am already living it. And this precious precious time I have in my hands now is for me to make use of it and to enjoy! Because I will never get this portion of time back; once I have achieved my “goals”, then what? The next goal, right? There will always be that next thing you want in life.

I mean, it’s great to have goals in life, it gives us purpose and something to strive towards and yada yada… All that is good stuff. BUT. I forget to live in the here and now. I forget to enjoy the reality I have now. Because there are good things here already, much that I have already achieved, goals already ticked off; these things tend to be forgotten once achieved. I am living a life of “Strive, Tick, Done, Next”. Not good. I want to remind myself everyday to be grateful for what I do have now and not fret for the things that I don’t yet have.

All good things will fall into place with consistent effort and a positive attitude.

So while I strive and work towards my goals, each time there is a setback or difficulty, I promise to myself that I will stop and think of all that I have already achieved and all there is to enjoy right now. This especially comes in handy when certain things are not in our control. There will always be factors that we are unable to control. It just becomes painful when we refuse to accept that some things are simply not in our hands. We can only do what is within our ability to control.

Then there is the thief of all joy: Comparison. We constantly benchmark ourselves against our peers. It is an unusually cruel and painful practice we inflict upon ourselves, I think. Yet I do it all the time. Unconsciously it slips in and settles comfortably in the corners of my mind breeding resentment and discontent. And then I catch myself doing it and I kick the beast out! No way are you sitting there breeding ill-feelings inside my mind. Everybody’s life is different. To someone else looking in, I could be living the dream life. In fact, I have told myself repeatedly, it is a good life that I have, and I will appreciate it! I will not make comparisons and covet what others have. It is the ultimate enemy to happiness.

Life is in the living and not in regretting or fretting. Enjoy the journey, for it matters so much more than the Destination.



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You know what they say about well-laid plans…

I love planning! I have been engaging in this joyful activity since young. I love to orchestrate my days, know exactly what I will be doing and when, and with whom and when things should happen and even how they should happen… yes kind of a control freak…


The plans I make always seem to dismally fail me – at least the major life plans. Whenever I PLAN a certain sequence of events for my life – it doesn’t happen quite that way. So I have resolved to stop planning anything beyond what I am going to have for lunch and what to wear to work tomorrow – even this, I am too weary at night to bother; I just open my closet in the morning and pick what comes. I have heard that God has plans for me. I sure am glad He does and I hope they are good stuff.

It seems those who see success in life go after their dreams relentlessly and methodically and have a series of goals that they aim to reach. I would reckon that a fair bit of planning is required for this. I have thought much about this. How do these people plan out their lives so well?

I think it is a matter of having several contingency plans, or taking things one step at a time. You can have a few realistic and well chosen goals, have a few ideas on how to go about getting there, but also know that things may not work like clockwork. We need to have the ability and mindset to constantly adapt to our changing circumstances. We need to have the trust in ourselves that no matter how the situation evolves, we have the ability to adapt. When we have this, we don’t need to be afraid that our well-laid plans will come crashing down – we know that we will be able to adapt and re-design as we go along.

Currently things are not too rosy but I guess (hope!!!) things will get better soon. But things are OK all things considered. That is life, I suppose, because if everything’s great then there is nothing to look forward to, is there?

“The best things are never arrived at in haste. God is in no hurry; His plans are never rushed.”
― Michael Phillips

Wishing all of you well-laid plans that will see success!

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Inspire Me Wednesday – A Prayer For Courage

Inspire me Wednesdays are about inspiring quotes or inspiring stories, to give us all a mid-week boost.

For today’s Inspire Me Wednesday, I came across a prayer by Rabindranath Tagore. Simple but eloquent words. I especially like the last line.

A Prayer For Courage
Rabindranath Tagore

Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers,
But to be fearless in facing them.
Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain,
But for the heart to conquer it.
Let me not look for allies in life’s battlefield,
But to my own strength.
Let me not crave in anxious fear to be saved,
But hope for the patience to win my freedom.
Grant me that I may not be a coward, feeling your mercy in my success alone,
But let me find the grasp of your hand in my failure.

It’s a prayer that isn’t asking for God/ a Higher Power to remove our troubles but rather asking for the strength to go through our troubles bravely. For we all know by now that life will always be filled with challenges, they do not magically disappear and the only way past is through them. What we want is the courage, strength and wisdom to go through them. I so like the last line, because it gives me the sense that God is with me even through my failures and difficulties, to bring me through them.

Wishing all of you courage, strength and wisdom!

Share your ideas and inspirations by leaving a comment or emailing me at mindurspirit@gmail.com. Every Wednesday , I will choose one inspiring idea/story to post.


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The Importance of Not Giving Up

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” – Thomas Edison
One of my favorite quotes from a great scientist. In life you have to keep trying again and again, even if sometimes you just don’t feel like carrying on. This is not to say you should bang your head against a wall knowing you are not going to crack it (the wall, that is). When you feel in your gut that this is the right path, or this is the goal you know you want to reach and it is somehow possible to achieve, go for it. You may fail, chances are high even, but that should not stop you. TRY and try again if you have to.

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